I watched this video today (below) about a woman who took her clothes off for a cause. The message is about body image. As a large woman, I wonder how many others think to themselves…’she has a great body, what does she have to be concerned about’? That thought lasts for about a minute until I realize that body image goes deep and wide. Some of the most attractive people can’t see their own beauty. I begin to wonder not only what brings people to a place of abusing their bodies with over, under or abusive eating, but what happened to bring them to a place of loathing their bodies or body parts? When did it become so important to remove a wrinkle instead of being proud of the experience that created it? When did the scars of childbirth become something to be ashamed of? When did who we really are become unacceptable?
I am happy to see many movements out there that support inner beauty and self acceptance. I still think we are a long way off, partly due to the pressure of the media and the inflicted opinions of others.
For today, I would like to invite you to have a moment with yourself. One where you look at yourself or close your eyes and feel yourself and cite the following: ‘Just for this moment I accept who I am, inside and out. I look and feel the way I do because that’s who I am. I don’t need to change or defend anything. I will be in a loving place with myself for as long as I can hold that space and will do it as often as I remember to do so. Because I am beautiful and worthy of hearing good things about me. From me. For me. Because I AM ME!!’
I have spent so many years focused on losing weight, getting thin, and working on my body that I lost myself somewhere in all of that.
One day I realized that I had a lot to bring to the table and to offer the world. I am a great business woman who has much to offer. I have an above average sense of humor and like to make people feel comfortable and joyful. I am loving and gentle and have so much to give to those less fortunate.
So why did I spend all that time worrying about my weight? Well, I was not satisfied with it for one. And I thought I should take care of it before I did anything else. Well that was a misconception for sure.
I didn’t make any headway doing it that way. But when I began turning my energy towards what was working in my life, I became happier, more peaceful and more integrated with those around me.
Everyone has something they bring to the table. What can you do that will bring you back to your real self today? What about you have you kept inside? Are you ready to let her out? Please share about it below, I’d love to hear from you.
To learn more about Fran Asaro go to www.thriveanyway.com
How much does your weight get in the way of your career? Are you challenged so much by it that you don’t go on interviews for fear they will reject you? Are you interested in becoming an entrepreneur but your self esteem is so low you don’t think it will work?
Well, let’s just say that sometimes we large women are judged by our appearance. It’s the same with everyone in the world; we are all subject to be judged for our looks, race, spiritual beliefs and so much more. So why would a plus size woman be left out of that? The thing is; are you going to let that stop you from moving forward? If you do, then THEY win, by keeping you playing small.
One day, many years ago while I was a new Realtor, I was playing the pity pot game with myself like I always did. I was at an awards ceremony celebrating the top Realtors. I didn’t win of course because I was large – or so I thought. Then all of a sudden a parade of the top Realtors crossed the stage. As my jaw dropped in this life changing moment I watched as several unlikely people crossed the stage as top producers. Along with a few very ordinary people and a man in a wheel chair, was the person I needed to see most. There before me was a woman proudly walking the stage to receive her top producer award who must have been 400 pounds. She was all I needed to stop my pity party and move passionately forward in my Real Estate career.
From that moment on I gave up the conversation I was too large. I worked at my business like any other top producer and began building momentum. I am very proud to say that I reached the top 6% of my company IN THE WORLD as a large woman. And all I had to do was give up a conversation I was having with myself.
Remember this; there are millions of large woman who are thriving somewhere in the world. Some at jobs and some in their own business. Why shouldn’t you be one of them?
It’s time…. Time to give up the old story that keeps your life small. Go out and challenge yourself to have the job or business of your dreams. The world is waiting for you!
Please pass this on to someone who needs an inspiring word.
For more information on Fran Asaro go to www.thriveanyway.com