I Can Be Thin by Then – Can’t I?

i can be thin by then cant iI Can Be Thin by Then – Can’t I?

Even though I write a blog entitled THRIVE ANY WEIGHT and I coach others to live a life they love in spite of what size they are, that doesn’t mean I don’t occasionally yearn to have a better body for an upcoming event. There are so many levels to wanting to lose weight before a making some sort of a public appearance, whether it be a wedding, reunion, celebration, public speaking event. I know many go through this and I guess I wondered if our thought process was similar. Add any of your additions below and let’s see who relates. Thanks

So this is my thought process.

  • I hear about the event and commit to going
  • Somewhere a long the line I decide I want to look better for it
  • I envision a new outfit and being complimented for the way I look
  • I imagine being the belle of the ball
  • I think about doing something everyday but the more I do, the less successful I am
  • I begin to get frantic as the time gets closer
  • I start to renegotiate my options – (maybe I can lose 10 pounds if I start today)
  • As the day gets closer I beat myself up a bit for not taking action
  • I consider not going
  • I throw in the towel and say, Oh well, I will just look frumpy one more time.
  • I dread the event getting closer
  • I scrounge to find something tolerable to wear
  • I go feeling ‘less than’
  • I have no more than an ‘OK’ time
  • I can’t wait to go home
  • I vow never to do this again

I am not sure if I can promise not to have this debilitating scenario happen again. What I can promise is this. I will implement the following into the process.

My New Process:

  • I will look forward to a fun event
  • I will look as wonderful as possible
  • I will sit up straight, smile and be noticed
  • I will be a shining star
  • I will be social and dance and feel alive
  • I will appreciate who I am and all of my magnificence
  • I will feel the energy of the day and my entitlement to be there just the way I am
  • I will have the best time
  • I will accept more invitations to do the same

Enjoy your life, no matter what your size. You are much more than your weight.

Enthusiastically,

Fran

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Girl Undresses for a Cause -Body Image Has Many Perspectives

I watched this video today (below) about a woman who took her clothes off for a cause. The message is about body image. As a large woman, I wonder how many others think to themselves…’she has a great body, what does she have to be concerned about’? That thought lasts for about a minute until I realize that body image goes deep and wide. Some of the most attractive people can’t see their own beauty. I begin to wonder not only what brings people to a place of abusing their bodies with over, under or abusive eating, but what happened to bring them to a place of loathing their bodies or body parts? When did it become so important to remove a wrinkle instead of being proud of the experience that created it? When did the scars of childbirth become something to be ashamed of? When did who we really are become unacceptable?

I am happy to see many movements out there that support inner beauty and self acceptance. I still think we are a long way off, partly due to the pressure of the media and the inflicted opinions of others.

For today, I would like to invite you to have a moment with yourself. One where you look at yourself or close your eyes and feel yourself and cite the following: ‘Just for this moment I accept who I am, inside and out. I look and feel the way I do because that’s who I am. I don’t need to change or defend anything. I will be in a loving place with myself for as long as I can hold that space and will do it as often as I remember to do so. Because I am beautiful and worthy of hearing good things about me. From me. For me. Because I AM ME!!’